Saturday, September 13, 2008


Thanks everyone! Your prayers, hugs, and moral support meant a lot to me!

The last time I posted, I was controlled by frustration and self-pity. Half-finished projects and the payless days L and I accrued this summer were causing muscle-tightening stress in my back. I realized that eliminating this stress was the only way my back would heal. Prayer and self-assessment led me to forgive myself for not living up to my self-imposed "superwoman" status. I re-prioritized our projects and accepted the fact that some of our projects would have to wait until next summer. *sigh* I also looked back on what we DID accomplish this summer, and gave us a much-deserved pat on the back.

Staying calm amidst the continuing glitches in our life has been quite a challenge, but well worth the effort. My back has improved to the point where I can put my shoes and socks on, and drive. These improvements made it possible for me to return to work this week, which alleviated my stress over money. My after work activities have been limited to resting up my back for the next day's work, while trying not to dwell on the unfinished chores that are stacking up around us. If I stay on track with my exercises and relaxation techniques, I should be back to normal within a month.

My return to work was plagued with aggravations; 50 of them to be precise. The small resort in our neighborhood booked a packaged 3-day fishing trip for the white-collar employees of a Wisconsin company. This resort has no kitchen facilities, so we were contracted to provide meals for the group. I could rant forever on the snafus we encountered, but I won't. Let's just say that it was no picnic waiting on 50 immature "boys", ranging in age from 25-60, who instantly reverted to incredibly LOUD and obscene misogynistic rednecks when they arrived in our northwoods environment. Every single one of these "boys" arrived for breakfast grossly hungover or still drunk from their post-fishing drinking binges. Judging from the smell, NONE of them remembered to pack their toothbrushes!

Another of my aggravations is....
Whose bright idea was it to make kitchen counters a workable 36 inch height, and bathroom counters a back-breaking 32 inch height? My spitting skills have greatly improved over the past 2 weeks. I can now spit toothpaste into the sink EVERY time from a standing position.

I can only sit for short periods at a time, so my visits to your blogs will be sporadic. BUT, I want you ALL to know how much your friendship means to me. THANK YOU!!!


At 9/13/2008 1:09 PM, Blogger Courtney said...

Now we just need to get you some snuff so you can show them redneck boys how spittin' is done! ;)

At 9/13/2008 1:25 PM, Blogger Jeannie said...

Glad you are on the mend. It's not fair to have expectations of yourself way beyond what you would expect of others.

I find that some men misbehave when they are away from the civilizing influence of the women in their lives.

We used to get similar behaviour on coon huntin weekend years ago at the place I worked. Our faces showed the stress of the constant biting of our tongues.

At 9/13/2008 5:57 PM, Blogger Wandering Coyote said...

Glad to hear things are on an upswing for you! Take care of that back!! Have you tried yoga? Do you want to try yoga? (I wouldn't blame you if you didn't!)

As for the rednecks...EW!

At 9/13/2008 7:46 PM, Blogger Bridget Jones said...

Oh sweetie we love you! It was a real shot in the arm to read this post. Very glad that you're getting better and are going easier on yourself.

I don't know how you kept from eeking revenge on those guys. I wouldn't be as mature as you are. Courtney's right about the snuff.

Hang in there, things are very much on the mend. Sending you guys tons of love and good wishes. (((((hugs)))))

At 9/14/2008 9:36 AM, Blogger Squirl said...

I'm so glad to read that you know how to forgive yourself. That's something that holds most people back from their own healing.

Those chores are not worth your health. You almost make me dizzy thinking about all the work that you guys do, on top of a very physically demanding job.

Hope you're getting better every day. hugs!

At 9/14/2008 10:22 AM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Courtney, nah, I'll stick to smoking my tobacco. ;)

Jeannie, SO TRUE! I started out working in resorts. I don't think I've got the patience for that shit anymore. That's also why I won't go to bars anymore. I prefer drinking at home, where I can choose the drunks I drink with! ;)

WC, the back exercises the doctor gave me are yoga-type exercises. I'm thinking of buying WiiFit for the yoga exercises, but that's as far as I'll go.

Bridg, Awwww, thanks sis! Your message brought tears to my eyes. Love you too!!!!

Squirl, Thanks! It ain't easy! Most days I catch myself backsliding, but my guys have been great at telling me to "Let it go!".
Enjoy your vacation and take lots of pictures for us! ;)

At 9/14/2008 12:10 PM, Blogger Cherie said...

Happy to hear that things are in an upswing for you guys. Whew. I hope your back continues to stretch out and relieve itself.

Smart you are to reassess projects. (We've had to do that, too.) And to take steady note of all that you have accomplished.

Men! Why do they do stuff like that? I wonder what we women do that may be comparable, when we get together in certain environs. Well, I'm not going to think about it. I'm just going to think how funny it would be for you to spit precisely in the middle of each of those male disaster's heads - when you're refilling their coffee. You may as well use your new skill for fun, hey? Ah, next time...

At 9/14/2008 4:31 PM, Blogger VV said...

Glad you're slowly getting back on track. My sister Pat wanted me to tell you "hi" and let you know she was thinking of you.

At 9/15/2008 10:25 AM, Blogger Grizzly Mama said...

Girl, you got a LOT done this summer - more than I could ever hope to accomplish. Hang in there and let yourself get some rest, you deserve it. You are doing more than fine in life, y'hear??

At 9/15/2008 11:03 AM, Blogger tweetey30 said...

Hey now that you are starting to feel better keep it that way. We all understand that you are healing and I am not that tall but i do know what you mean.. Now the girls have no problems spitting. They are at sink level with a stool... LOL... Anyway I need to go do a few errands. So I will catch you later.

At 9/15/2008 4:07 PM, Blogger DirtCrashr said...

I'm with you on the counter-top height, the sink is way off! Get them UP!

At 9/15/2008 6:11 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Cherie, guess what one of the re-assessed projects was? The kitchen floor...again! :(

Aren't you glad that OUR men aren't like that?! ;)

VV, slow is the operative word! Keeping my frustration in check ain't easy.
Tell Pat HI! from me.

Grizz, THANKS! You wanna come be my morale coach? ;)

Tweets, right now I'd love to have my sink at chin level. LOL!

DC, even though our bathroom vanity is still in great shape, I've been eyeing the new, higher vanities at Menards. Just what I need, another project for my wish-list. ;)

At 9/16/2008 9:12 AM, Blogger zydeco fish said...

Good to hear that you are improving. I hadn't considered the height differential between kitchen and bathroom counter tops, but it's a very good question.

At 9/17/2008 8:17 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Thanks ZF!
It's refreshing to see that designers have started making higher vanities. Too bad it took them 50 yrs to catch on!

At 9/18/2008 4:08 PM, Blogger Gardenia said...

Oh my gosh, I can sympathize and empathize with you! I hope you soon get back to normal. Hope you'll share your "techniques" in a future post! Hope your recovery is quick - but while you are down, well, enjoy it and don't look around seeing what all hasn't been done or needs done!

At 9/19/2008 6:39 PM, Blogger Pam said...

Hi TSHS... Remember me?
I am making my way back into blogdom and just read all about L's eye surgeries -- so glad that things turned out ok for him! (And wondering if the surgeries you had to travel for were in my neck of the woods -- cringing at the thought of a missed opportunity to meet! :-/ ) Sorry to know your back is acting up -- I am the same way, but with my neck. Whenever there is stress, I get all crooked. I admire you so much for keeping up with the blogging through all of these trials. Hang in there.

At 9/20/2008 10:02 AM, Blogger CA said...

I don't know if your particular back ailment is the "truck driver or desk sitter" kind; the sacroiliac muscle spasms kind.(right across just above the hips) If it is, here is a great exercise for it. It worked for me after about two days when my back hurt so much I could hardly bend.

Lie down on your stomach on a hard surface like a work bench or a very firm bed, with your body from the waist up hanging over the edge. Have someone hold your legs then lower your top half down toward the floor and raise it up again. Do this about five or six times the first time then more as you go along. It worked for me. Good luck and hang in there.
I have to remember an old saying that makes me chuckle: "Cheer up,- thing could get worse, so I cheered up and, sure enough, things got worse

At 9/21/2008 2:18 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Gardenia, I'm really sorry that we have this in common. Hopefully your surgery will do the trick for you.
I'm not to the point where surgery will improve anything...yet. I hope that I don't advance to that stage. *crossing fingers*

PAM!!!! I've missed your witty opinions sooooooo much! Blogging is a great therapy for me. My blogfriends always seem to lighten my load.

We were only 1/3 of the way down to you. Maybe next summer we'll have enough money to make it the rest of the way. ;)

CA, whoa, that's a hardcore exercise! The exercises my doctor gave me are more yoga-ish. They stretch the spine, which takes the pressure of my herniated disc allowing it to heal. I also have another exercise which strengthens the muscles of my lower back.

At 9/21/2008 7:36 PM, Blogger Pam said...

Yes, you are right, writing is great therapy and with blogging you get the support of friends too. I have missed it a lot.

I hope your back is feeling better!

At 9/26/2008 12:34 AM, Blogger The Zombieslayer said...

Yuck. Too bad none of their boats tipped over and at least gave you something to laugh about.

At 9/26/2008 4:52 PM, Blogger Gardenia said...

hope you are coming along ok - I know you said you got some relief, thankfully. I think you "work like a man" sometimes!

If this happens very often, get yourself checked out. Also, I found that a person should keep their body very hydrated as discs lose water when you start getting on to 40 - and this causes really bad problems.

Unfortunately, pain can be a great teacher. I still am trying to learn!!!! I think I need to LEARN how to properly relax -

At 9/27/2008 12:21 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

ZS, they didn't bring their own boats. I wouldn't want to wish that upon the poor local guides who had to put up with those idiots ALL DAY!

Gardenia, you're right, I do work like a man quite often. What men don't tell us is that those jobs aren't as difficult as they let on. "Women's work" is a lot tougher.

I recently found out about the water/joint thing. I'm fine at staying hydrated, but I've been trying to get L to drink ANY water. He has arthritis in his shoulder and hands, and refuses to drink water. I keep telling him that coffee doesn't count.

Relaxing is a VERY difficult thing for us women to learn. I'm still not very good at it, but the main keeps reminding me.

How's YOUR back doing?

At 9/27/2008 12:23 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

DOH; that should say PAIN, not MAIN!
Stupid fingers!

At 9/29/2008 2:54 PM, Blogger Helene said...

Sorry to hear about the low moral. Too much to do can simply be overbearing, Just imagine yourself juggling dozens of tasks and before you know it another dozen and another and you cannot focus on any one task anymore. When it gets there, you must let it all go and take a step back - take a deep breath and pick one at a time back up. It's the same with my job, and now I've cleared all the backlog and all these small tasks and I feel so much more relaxed now, I could actually start bigger projects I had been putting off, which is very rewarding.

On another note, what's up with these boys???

At 9/30/2008 6:54 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Helene, that's exactly what happens. I know better, but I still let myself get overwhelmed at times. You've learned this lesson at a far younger age than I did.

As for the "boys" Jeannie said, some men require the "civilizing influence" of the women in their lives in order to act like human beings. :(
I'm sure glad I'm not married to a man like that!


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