Saturday, April 01, 2006


Boss returned to work on Thursday. We spent some time discussing her trip; the weather, what she thought of her daughter's new house, the status of friends and relatives she visited on the way. Then I filled her in on events that happened in her absence; births, deaths, hospitalizations, progress on economic developments in our area. Eventually, I eased into the topic of one of DW's minor indiscretions. Boss instantly went on the defensive. OK, if that's the way she wants it! I hope she doesn't expect me, or her other 3 hard-working, faithful employees, to sympathize when the situation bites HER in the ass!

Our Boss is a generous, hard-working woman, but she's a TERRIBLE manager. She never takes the time to properly train new employees, or clearly state the rules of employment. She avoids confrontations at all costs, and will take up the slack of shirking employees, by doing the work herself. She is also hopeless at prioritizing and money management. L and I have always hoped to buy the business from her, when she retires. With the condition of her personal finances, she'll be working until they lock the lid on her coffin. Oh well, I guess this gives us job security.

Thursday morning, L had an appointment with his hearing aid people. His left hearing aid had, ONCE AGAIN, broken into numerous pieces. To top it off, his right hearing aid quit working Wednesday afternoon. A word of advice...don't EVER buy a SIEMANS hearing aid! They're a piece of shit! Unfortunately, this company holds a monopoly with every insurance company, and Medicare, in northern MN. It makes me wonder who they bought off for this privilege. I have gone to pick up L's repaired hearing aids several times. You wouldn't believe the horror stories I have heard from ALL the other customers, while sitting in the waiting room! NOBODY is happy with their product! The last time they glued and melted L's hearing aid back into one piece, the technician? said that L was having problems because he was a "high end" user. This means that L is foolish enough to use his hearing aids, ALL day, EVERY day! WTF?! Isn't that the purpose of hearing aids; so you can hear during ALL your waking hours? Anyhoo, now we ALL have to suffer through TWO WEEKS of L without hearing aids, while they are being "repaired"!! I think it's time for a scathing letter to the State Attorney General's office!

Up until Thursday, we were making progress in Z's room. The floor was cleared and we had started sorting through his shelves. Thursday morning, L discovered that Z had once again filled his floor with clutter. Z's OCD, once again, sabotages our efforts! I threw a hissy-fit when I got home from work. Then Z and I sat down and discussed the situation. He now realizes that the cluttered state of his room is affecting every aspect of his life. He now realizes that he needs to gain control of his personal space in order to feel good about himself. This will pave the way for him to finish all the school projects that he has started. Z now understands why his psychologist insisted that organizing his room was a priority project.

After our talk, Z and I decided to take the rest of the day off and go shopping for some necessities that were on sale at Menards. While there, Z found a $50 D&D type computer game, that he had been wanting, for $6. I purchased a box of Pot of Gold chocolates for $3.99. Ah, the comforting effects of shopping!


At 4/01/2006 3:56 PM, Blogger Bridget Jones said...

Sounds like it turned out fine in the end and you made real progress with Z.

Would very much encourage you to write that letter to the Attorney General. I hate monopolies for the very reasons you describe. And medical ones are the most despicable of all.

Sorry your boss is in denial. The good (?) news is that the more she ignores what's going on, the bolder they're going to get. Eventually it'll bite her in the butt big time. Only one word of advice--don't try to help/rescue her. I've made that mistake so many times....

At 4/01/2006 4:30 PM, Blogger European said...

shopping = good
bargain shopping = even better...

At 4/01/2006 5:05 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

That's always been my motto Bridg: give 'em enough rope and they'll hang themselves! We (good workers), have decided that we're not gonna bail her out when this one bites her, and it will.

Absolutely, Euro!!
When we got home, Z said-"OMG, Mom. Did we just do GIRL stuff this afternoon? You" I thought his comment was sooo funny! Especially since Menards is a home/hardware store, like Home Depot.

At 4/01/2006 8:48 PM, Blogger Squirl said...

Good luck on the work scenario. Too bad she won't see what's happening.

Also, good luck on the hearing aid and getting Z's room done. :)

At 4/02/2006 12:05 AM, Blogger SME said...

Did you stick your thumb in all the chocolates? Heehee.
So...Dad shouldn't use his hearing aids 'cause it wears the hearing aids down?! That's a new one.
Tell Z I'll send Richard down there with the vacuum - his floor will be cleared no matter what, cause Richard will get REEAALLY grumpy if he can't vacuum!

At 4/02/2006 12:31 AM, Blogger MonicaR said...

I love to shop! I don't care where even - the thrift shop gives me that zingy feeling, too. It's a sickness, I know.

Sorry about the hearing aids. I wonder if my MIL's are the same brand. ALWAYS having problems with it - it NEVER seems to be working properly.

Good luck with the room. I haven't even started mine yet.

At 4/02/2006 7:29 AM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Thanks Squirl. Boss sees it, she just won't DO anything about it. :(

Me too Monica! I even love to shop if I don't buy anything. The dollar store gets me zingy. I LOVE a bargain!

SME, Pot of Gold has a map. Plus, I bought the variety that has truffles and caramel mixes (turtles too, heehee). They don't have the icky-gooey, tutti-fruitti ones.
The main problem with Dad's left aid, is that they didn't make it right. It gave his ears blisters. They had to grind it down with a dremel-tool, to get it to fit properly. This weakened the plastic, and causes it to crack. IDIOTS!
Doug wants to try out our new vacuum, so he could leave his "new girlfriend" at home. He also said that he'd LOVE to help us paint the garage. Sicko! I wish I had his energy!

At 4/02/2006 10:47 AM, Blogger Notta Wallflower said...

Hmm. I could check with my audiologist friend for good brands of hearing aids. I use PHONAK for my students, but I think they only make FM systems (which work really great). I'm amazed a product like L's hearing aids stay on the market - hearing aids are so expensive.

Regarding cleaning/organizing, I get to do that this morning, otherwise the start of my workweek tomorrow will not start out well.

I've worked with bosses like yours and I must say that, first of all, I usually get along better with male superiors. Also, the women I get along with the best (for my supervisors) are gruff, but dependable. I've heard people complain about this type of manager, but the point is, when you need them they are there and everyone is accountable to the same code of work ethics.

At 4/02/2006 11:25 AM, Blogger Wandering Coyote said...

The more I hear about your medical system down there, the more I despair for you. You cannot have a for-profit system that works - you just can't! Unbelievable. Aaron's grandmother in Chicagoland has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer, and the specialists won't perscribe a treatment for her because of the potential for malpractice litigation. I don't get it! What's a specialist for? They want her to go and do her own research and choose an option. She's elderly and in denial and no doc will go on the record to say what's the best option!

Rant over.

Love managers who can't manage. Don't get that, either.

At 4/02/2006 11:25 AM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Notta, 13 yrs ago, when L got his first hearing aid, we bought a Miracle Ear. This product worked very well, with very little "down time". Paying for it ourselves, we could only afford ONE hearing aid.
When we got insurance, SIEMANS became our ONLY option. I'm not sure if the fault lies with the product itself, or their inept technicians.

"..when you need them they are there and everyone is accountable to the same code of work ethics."

I TOTALLY agree!

At 4/02/2006 11:32 AM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Agreed, WC!! There are too many opportunities for corruption in a "for-profit" system. This includes "for-profit" insurance companies!

At 4/02/2006 1:05 PM, Blogger Laura said...

"She avoids confrontations at all costs, and will take up the slack of shirking employees, by doing the work herself" Sounds a lot like my former and my current boss. rrrg.

At 4/02/2006 1:18 PM, Blogger Davey said...

There is no better therapy than retail therapy!!! I have a saying I like to drop on people in psitions of authority when I have had enough, it goes like this "When you die I would really like to be a poll bearer because I have been carrying you around for soooo long I'd like to finish the job."

At 4/02/2006 2:12 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Frustrating, isn't it Laura? I think my boss does this because she has a fear of being disliked. Popularity and status are everything to her.

I LOVE that line, Davey!

At 4/02/2006 9:48 PM, Blogger Candace said...

My 2nd had a lot of trouble with clutter - too much stuff with not enough places to put it. It was overwhelming for her. I put a bunch of stuff in bins downstairs and it's a lot easier for her now. We're going through the bins this week to see if anythin gcan go away. She can rotate some stuff back into her room as long as she rotates some other stuff out.

Ugh on the job front. AND the hearoing aid. Grrr!

At 4/04/2006 5:03 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Candace, labeled bins have always been our salvation. The hardest part for Z is getting rid of ANYTHING! Even if he doesn't play with it anymore, it MUST stay within reach.

At 4/04/2006 5:55 PM, Blogger Vest said...

So you are making progress with the economic developements in your area, when the rest of the world is in freefall. your boss should enroll in a business course, it would appear she does not know even the basics, like using the 'Whip, firing and reduction of wages'.

At 4/04/2006 7:03 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

Actually Vest, our area is economically below "freefall". We're trying to work our way back up to that position.
A class in financial organization and profit and loss would be a boon to my boss. She constantly takes catering jobs where she breaks even or takes a loss just for the "status" of the job.
We 4 faithful employees donate a LOT of time to her business, just to keep the business running so we have a job.

At 4/04/2006 10:44 PM, Blogger The Zombieslayer said...

She avoids confrontations at all costs, and will take up the slack of shirking employees, by doing the work herself.

Yeah, knew a few people like that. Have no place in management, because they'll end up killing themselves (not literally, but in the end, they'll die of being overworked, so I guess somewhat literally).

At 4/05/2006 4:38 AM, Blogger Vest said...

Tshsmom: It would be best for the lady employer to work for wages and employ a tactical working manager to run the business, why not apply for this position yourself smart lady.

At 4/05/2006 2:22 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

That's exactly what she's doing ZS. Her legs are shot already, and I'm sure her blood pressure is through the roof. :(

Vest, she actually thinks she knows what she's doing. It's always somebody else's fault when she doesn't turn a profit. She's trying to run a 4 star restaurant in a short order business.

At 4/06/2006 10:48 AM, Blogger Sadie Lou said...

I have had the worst luck with female employers. I've had females that are on a power trip and then I've had the opposite problem; the female is weak and cannot be depended on.
I don't think I would make a good boss either.
I'm too set in my ways as far as how I like things to be done. I would expect too much out of people.

At 4/07/2006 9:42 AM, Blogger greatwhitebear said...

Tell Z - "Home Depot and Menards are NOT girlie shopping places, they are amusement parks for REAL men!"

At 4/07/2006 5:47 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

LOL, GWB! He was quite relieved when I told him we spent the afternoon doing guy stuff.

At 4/07/2006 7:26 PM, Blogger Vest said...

A good Captain, is the loneliest man on the ship.

At 4/08/2006 12:14 PM, Blogger tshsmom said...

So true, Vest!


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